For people with low-level social anxiety, a common piece of conventional wisdom is that you should stop worrying so much about what other people think, because no one is actually thinking about you. In fact, this isn’t true…
The problem is not that other people think about us but that their thoughts are so flattening, so reductive in comparison to our own complicated view of ourselves.
Kristen Roupenian – The New Yorker, January 2019